I am asking for prayer once again for my friend Kim. She is disabled from a stroke she had 30 years ago, but the past 5 years have been so difficult with her husband dying of leukemia two years ago and she is unable to take care of herself due to being unstable of her feet.
Her daughter and her partner live with Kim, but barely take care of her. She spends all of her day in her bed. Her room is full of various junk food that she consumes instead of regular meals. Her daughter and partner do not get her up and in her wheelchair to take her out of her room to the living room to visit with them or share a movie or meal.
This really saddens me. Her doctor recommended for her to go to an assisted living situation but she won't for several reasons, she wants to stay in her home and she does not wish to displace her daughter due to needing to sell the house to pay down her assets until she can then have Medicare take care of the expenses of assisted living care.
She rarely contacts me now. I have taken her to a few appointments but does not wish for me to come over and just hang out.
She is lonely, depressed, and mad at God for having her life be so difficult and full of trials when she is trying to live in faith.
She is 67.
I appreciate if a few of you would keep her in your prayers often. Thank you.
Hi GiGi. What a sad lonely situation that your friend Kim is in. I know it can be so easy to blame God for the painful things that come into our lives, especially when we know we haven't done anything wrong to receive such undeserving hardship or discipline. She seems like she is now in a state where it is just self-pity & the overwhelming magnitude of her problems that are consuming her mind and spirit and she sees no way out of it. Unfortunately, we can all go through suffering to a minor or major extent and with her stroke, loss of husband and the indifference of her own daughter, all this together can be far too much to bear.
You have consistently tried to help her and your act of love should let her know that she still has a friend "that stickest closer" than her very own kin. As well, you can't be expected to devote all your time with her and neglect your own life and responsibilities at home. Even with her severe physical problems and limitations, you would know what her interests are, and whether suggesting something like that might prompt her to engage with you better. Anyway, those were just some thoughts, as I recall a friend who had multiple sclerosis for over ten years after which he ended his life by consuming all his medications in one hit. But in the time he was alive, I tried to keep up with visits, even for a short time to just chat, or take him to the bank, chemist, or hospital. Fortunately, he was the type that looked forward to my visits, as he probably did to others who came by, but his pain and sense of hopelessness in any improvement in quality of life, caused him to consider release in death better than bearing with the constant pain (he wasn't a believer, and very resistant to the Gospel). So, I feel very much for you too GiGi, as it can't be easy at all to see a dear one in such a state and being helpless to render her effective help. But God can!! So, we must pray and continue to plead His Hand of Divine help and blessing.
Yes, she is in deep with self-pity. It has not been easy for her these past 30 years because her husband was a self-centered, unbeliever who did not care for her well through that time. She was able to get around well, care for herself, help out at my school and go to church easily up until about 2018 when her body began to get so achy from all the compensation her body was doing for the weaker, paralyzed side of her body. Once they hunkered down during covid, things just went downhill quickly. Her husband had lung cancer, then prostate cancer and finally leukemia, which took his life. In all the years of her disability, he did not help out much at home, still expecting her to cook all the meals, take care of the house and all while he worked. So, things have been hard for her for decades but expressly less manageable these past 5 years.
She is embarassed about her situation now, especially since she has gained so much weight and cannot keep herself showered and primped like she used to do. I pray that God will bring about a better solution to her life at this time and that she will become more open to having me visit. I would like to visit her once a week. I have only seen her a few times in the past 5 years. She was very fearful of covid and got used to not going anywhere for so many months. Well, things just got away from her and now she is in a bad situation. We have been friends for 30+ years.
Thank you GiGi for sharing more about Kim's situation (past & present). Will continue to lay her life and concerns before the LORD of mercies and comfort. May He reveal Himself to her in such a way that her spirit will be lifted and her sorrows fade away for the Glory of the Living Loving God ministering to her. May the LORD strengthen you too in your deep concern for your friend, that every contact you make with her will be as God's Hands to bless and encourage her.
Sounds awful. I pray that God gives you wisdom and that her daughter and relation won't be taking advantage of her.
I; as per the norm this summer took a trip hours out of town and returned the same day; I got electric in the cabin although he has to check the heater and close an outlet later this week. I couldn't think of anything else when he asked me what to put on since lights work inside and outside the door. Between the snake (probably a harmless garter); in the porta potty and the fiberglass insulation opened up and exposed that wasn't used upstairs exposed to the heat the air wasn't suitable to spend a night there so once again I have come home after 10 hrs of driving; at least I got to hand out a GOSPEL tract up there so all wasn't lost.
My friend from church says he was willing to pay to rent the cabin; but I mentioned it didn't have running water but i said he can stay for free.
I am asking for prayer once again for my friend Kim. She is disabled from a stroke she had 30 years ago, but the past 5 years have been so difficult with her husband dying of leukemia two years ago and she is unable to take care of herself due to being unstable of her feet.
Her daughter and her partner live with Kim, but barely take care of her. She spends all of her day in her bed. Her room is full of various junk food that she consumes instead of regular meals. Her daughter and partner do not get her up and in her wheelchair to take her out of her room to the living room to visit with them or share a movie or meal.
This really saddens me. Her doctor recommended for her to go to an assisted living situation but she won't for several reasons, she wants to stay in her home and she does not wish to displace her daughter due to needing to sell the house to pay down her assets until she can then have Medicare take care of the expenses of assisted living care.
She rarely contacts me now. I have taken her to a few appointments but does not wish for me to come over and just hang out.
She is lonely, depressed, and mad at God for having her life be so difficult and full of trials when she is trying to live in faith.
She is 67.
I appreciate if a few of you would keep her in your prayers often. Thank you.
I appreciate your prayers and concern.
You have consistently tried to help her and your act of love should let her know that she still has a friend "that stickest closer" than her very own kin. As well, you can't be expected to devote all your time with her and neglect your own life and responsibilities at home. Even with her severe physical problems and limitations, you would know what her interests are, and whether suggesting something like that might prompt her to engage with you better. Anyway, those were just some thoughts, as I recall a friend who had multiple sclerosis for over ten years after which he ended his life by consuming all his medications in one hit. But in the time he was alive, I tried to keep up with visits, even for a short time to just chat, or take him to the bank, chemist, or hospital. Fortunately, he was the type that looked forward to my visits, as he probably did to others who came by, but his pain and sense of hopelessness in any improvement in quality of life, caused him to consider release in death better than bearing with the constant pain (he wasn't a believer, and very resistant to the Gospel). So, I feel very much for you too GiGi, as it can't be easy at all to see a dear one in such a state and being helpless to render her effective help. But God can!! So, we must pray and continue to plead His Hand of Divine help and blessing.
Yes, she is in deep with self-pity. It has not been easy for her these past 30 years because her husband was a self-centered, unbeliever who did not care for her well through that time. She was able to get around well, care for herself, help out at my school and go to church easily up until about 2018 when her body began to get so achy from all the compensation her body was doing for the weaker, paralyzed side of her body. Once they hunkered down during covid, things just went downhill quickly. Her husband had lung cancer, then prostate cancer and finally leukemia, which took his life. In all the years of her disability, he did not help out much at home, still expecting her to cook all the meals, take care of the house and all while he worked. So, things have been hard for her for decades but expressly less manageable these past 5 years.
She is embarassed about her situation now, especially since she has gained so much weight and cannot keep herself showered and primped like she used to do. I pray that God will bring about a better solution to her life at this time and that she will become more open to having me visit. I would like to visit her once a week. I have only seen her a few times in the past 5 years. She was very fearful of covid and got used to not going anywhere for so many months. Well, things just got away from her and now she is in a bad situation. We have been friends for 30+ years.
Have a blessed work week ahead.
I; as per the norm this summer took a trip hours out of town and returned the same day; I got electric in the cabin although he has to check the heater and close an outlet later this week. I couldn't think of anything else when he asked me what to put on since lights work inside and outside the door. Between the snake (probably a harmless garter); in the porta potty and the fiberglass insulation opened up and exposed that wasn't used upstairs exposed to the heat the air wasn't suitable to spend a night there so once again I have come home after 10 hrs of driving; at least I got to hand out a GOSPEL tract up there so all wasn't lost.
My friend from church says he was willing to pay to rent the cabin; but I mentioned it didn't have running water but i said he can stay for free.
Keep me posted on that prayer request.
RP
Thanks you for your prayers for Kim.
I am glad to know that your trip to your cabin gave you some answers as to what needs to be done to make it a suitable place to stay.
I continue to pray for you and for your dad.
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