Proverbs 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. The Berean Standard version says "guard your heart" which in my mind is a better expression of the meaning of that verse.
I discussed last night the sad state of affairs of a brother of mine with who used to be a close friend who separated from his wife a couple years ago and who is being disciplined by the church he was a member in. I personally have seen him in the past weeping because of the lost and he and his wife had a wonderful testimony of how they came to faith in Christ in college. I won't get into the details but it appears a pride factor and control over money has caused this rift.
My own marriage was difficult but still our counselor was shocked when she decided to have an affair and pursue a divorce after we attempted a year or two of counselling. As for myself I have shared how scriptural counseling later was given from James and some other scriptures; that at least kept me from outbursts of anger that also were exascerbated by some behaviors of my wife that I won't discuss here either.
People write "pre nups" in anticipation of or preparation for future breaking of wedlock. The best preparation of course is spiritual. My marriage failed but still I will leave some suggestions that have helped others.
1. Before marriage; establish an agreement to commit to prayer and Bible study and remaining in church fellowship. All three of these things became issues after I eloped.
2. Avail yourself of marriage preparation from a Pastor or close friend if such a thing exists in your church. I can't be sure it does today. This was something that I also failed in; giving in to my wife who at the time was active in church and I didn't see that things would change after we moved; etc.
3. Men should have men to confide in and women should instruct younger women. Titus 2:4-6 (see next post).
Proverbs 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. The Berean Standard version says "guard your heart" which in my mind is a better expression of the meaning of that verse.
I discussed last night the sad state of affairs of a brother of mine with who used to be a close friend who separated from his wife a couple years ago and who is being disciplined by the church he was a member in. I personally have seen him in the past weeping because of the lost and he and his wife had a wonderful testimony of how they came to faith in Christ in college. I won't get into the details but it appears a pride factor and control over money has caused this rift.
My own marriage was difficult but still our counselor was shocked when she decided to have an affair and pursue a divorce after we attempted a year or two of counselling. As for myself I have shared how scriptural counseling later was given from James and some other scriptures; that at least kept me from outbursts of anger that also were exascerbated by some behaviors of my wife that I won't discuss here either.
People write "pre nups" in anticipation of or preparation for future breaking of wedlock. The best preparation of course is spiritual. My marriage failed but still I will leave some suggestions that have helped others.
1. Before marriage; establish an agreement to commit to prayer and Bible study and remaining in church fellowship. All three of these things became issues after I eloped.
2. Avail yourself of marriage preparation from a Pastor or close friend if such a thing exists in your church. I can't be sure it does today. This was something that I also failed in; giving in to my wife who at the time was active in church and I didn't see that things would change after we moved; etc.
3. Men should have men to confide in and women should instruct younger women. Titus 2:4-6 (see next post).
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